Science of Attraction - The Halo Effect
Results of the Social Experiment:
The same man saying the same words to two different groups of women drew very different responses. The only difference was in the tone and body language!
The positive body language and enthusiasistic tone of speaking had a big impact on the first group of women who became more positive towards him and to the possibility of a date with him. They were able to overlook other aspects that they thought were negative about the man due to the halo effect. So how could you use this halo effect to help you in your dating life and relationships?
You can use the halo effect:
- to impress others if you are the one trying to attract people eg. as in finding dates or friends - by injecting enthusiasm into your voice and projecting a more positive body language in your video 'resumes'
- or you can evaluate a person for this effect (and monitor yourself and your reactions) if you are trying to screen the chaff from the wheat eg. ensure you are not being blinded to the bad aspects of a relationship that you should really leave, because of the halo effect,
- or salvage the wheat from the chaff eg. be able to recognise a good friend and not 'toss them away' just because they don't 'sound or brim' with enthusiasm and extroversion!
This video also demonstrates that we should look beyond the superficial and refrain from being too judgemental when you first meet or hear someone digitally, especially if you haven't really had a chance to meet them in person or to get to know them better... because... they could be quite different in real life from the image they projected on their dating 'resume' whether wittingly or unwittingly!!
In other words don't dismiss someone too hastily based on superficial 'guidelines' or judgement because they could be quite suitable as your dating or relationship partner!
Fool's Gold Versus Uncut Diamond
Being able to pick the right person is as important as being able to AVOID the wrong person. Social skills such as this require practice, and the 'halo effect' is just one more tool in your dating tips arsenal to help you hone the skills that will stack the odds in your favour to succeed in your dating aspirations.
Dating Tip: Sieve for the Uncut Diamond and don't get bedazzled by Fool's Gold*!
*Geology 101: Fool's gold is a yellow rock that looks like gold but is NOT gold and has no value as a precious metal. Diamonds in their natural state don't scintillate at all the way you see them in shops! They sparkle only after being discovered, cut and polished!